The Pink Kit wowing the first time mothers and fathers

17 July 2007

I'm in San Diego, California continuing to speak with expectant parents about the childbirth skills in The Pink Kit Package. Two nights ago I spoke to a group of first time (about-to-be) parents. One of the couples had recently purchased The Pink Kit Package which had arrived a week ago. Her husband had wondered what 'this pink kit is about'. His wife asked him to listen to Just for... first time fathers from the Just for... Series. She said 'That hooked him'.

He said that the statement in the CD which explained that if men had babies we'd be able to see the passage of the baby's head down his private parts and how big a baby's head is and how it might hurt. That helped him to understand that birth is internal in women, more hidden, but a baby's head is BIG. Suddenly he could clearly understand the concept of 'naturally occuring pain.'

He then immediately wanted to learn the skills. They were cute. They said they are sticking to the suggested usage ... to work through New Focus: Breath, Language and Touch first and not peek ahead to the other resources.

The other couples were being introduced to The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better® for the first time. All had an interest in learning something more about their birth but were still confusing their choices from the basic need to have their own set of birth skills for whatever birth they have .

Most of them had already read many birth books, were making decisions about their Birth Plans but all felt that something was missing. In fact, they felt so overloaded with 'information' and trying to remember 'knowledge' that the concept of having skills was actually unique. On the other hand, they all questioned 'if you don't know what your birth is going to be like, how can we prepare for it?'

We no longer answer that question. Instead we ask people to experience the skills. They will self answer that question. When you have skills you use them with whatever is happening at the time.

So for any of you who wonder, just get The Pink Kit Package and teach yourself the skills and you'll know that you can go into any birth you have your skills.

I gave them a short Pink Kit Presentation. As I went through the 4 ways all humans breathe, the couple who had just started with the resources nodded wisely (they were so proud of their already gained skills!). They knew what I was going to show them next. Even in a week they had experienced and self-learned the four ways we breathe, the variations, which ones indicate the woman is coping or managing the pain and which ones indicate she is feeling challenged. And, of course, they had their newly learned breathing skills to keep the woman coping and not losing it.

They smiled at each other like they shared a private joke. In fact, we shared a common language which the other people there didn't yet have.

At the end of the evening all the men felt so much more skillful and the women truly appreciated this. When a father-to-be is confident that he has the skills to help his partner, she becomes much more confident to face the challenge ahead. This calms women.

Each father said that they were transformed, different men, different people and could be a different partner and parent in the birthing process. It's that fast. Learn just the simplest of skills and why we share those skills in common with all other human beings and we absolutely know that we have the 'missing piece'.

What all the women said after the presentation was this:

'I've been looking for something (didn't know what it was, where to look or if I'd know it when I found it) ... and I now know that what I've been looking for is these skills. I want to go into my labour knowing I can handle whatever happens. Now both of us can do that... together'.

If you're an expectant parent reading this then become part of the future of childbirth ... skills for all births ... skills for your birth. Skills that are simple to learn because they are how we do things as humans but have never really thought about before.

Have you actually thought about what the 4 ways all humans breathe? If you think to yourself .. 'sure I know that ... fast or slow, deep or shallow, in the chest or in the belly' .. then you've got some of the variations of the 4 types but not the 4 types.

Someone asked me what the difference between having 'breathing' techniques and learning The Pink Kit breathing.

Actually a technique is often taught without the person understanding the deeper aspects. Without a true understanding then when faced with a situation where we struggle with applying a technique, we can't adapt. Then we think the technique or ourselves has failed.

Learning about how we, as humans, do things means we can stick to the positive behaviors and not use the negative ones. For example, people are taught to bend their knees to pick up heavy things. This isn't a technique, it's how we work as humans. We can use our big leg muscles instead of our back.

Anyway, I'll be offline for the next 10 days. I'm heading to Hopi country to visit a friend and won't have internet access.

Then I'll start sharing again before I head overseas.

Dont' forget to ask any questions you might have. We're always here at info@birthingbetter.com

Talk again soon.

Pink Kit Stories Keep Coming In

14 July 2007

Every day we get one or more Pink Kit birth stories.

Using a blog to discuss the larger issues in how birth skills fit into all births has been my approach. There's still so much to discuss. Why expectant parents who find www.birthingbetter.com don't purchase The Pink Kit Package? What do expectant parents expect to happen during labour and delivery? What role do they think they have? Who is doing the birth? Are people just too lazy or overwhelmed by the medical profession, too busy or just don't believe birth skills will work for them?

Yet, every birth is composed of a pregnant state of being that predisposes itself to preparing for the upcoming labour and delivery. Every birth is then a series of contractions that become more painful or intense. And each contraction is composed of one inhale followed by another ... giving us plenty of opportunities to do something for ourselves.

This short story comes from a woman who works as a midwife and who strongly insists her clients teach themselves The Pink Kit skills. This particular couple's baby was originally breech and eventually turned. She still had a c/s. They had been in touch with me and committed to learning the skills for whatever eventuated.

R. says:

An update about C & J. They worked exceptionally & beautifully well as a couple, ended up a c/s, a brow presentation. They are making a very good recovery.

This is a perfect Pink Kit birth. Even if you had a c/s won't you want to remember how 'exceptionally and beautifully well' you and your partner worked together? Isn't that what makes the great memories?

I feel the most bizarre beliefs about birth and why women can't be bothered to teach themselves these skills. Just some of those reasons:

1. 'Gosh, there's more than one resource. That's too much to learn.'
2. 'If I don't have the birth I want then The Pink Kit will have failed.'
3. 'If I don't accomplish a vbac then I believe the Pink Kit will think I've failed.'

J & C made a decision even though their baby was breech to teach themselves these skills. This only made them stronger as a couple. When their baby turned, they then assumed that 'head down' was the perfect position!

How common is a brow presentation? Well, I've been told 1-500. We've heard of women who have successfully delivered a brow presentation. However, aren't we glad to live in countries where a medical profession is there to help in such unusual situations?

Without their Pink Kit skills they would still have had a c/s however, you can bet your bottom dollar that they won't have had much of a clue how to really work together through each contraction and each breath cycle.

Don't you want a piece of a better birth because of what you can do for yourself?