19 June 2007
I'm trying to complete the conversation Sonya and I had over a several month period. I've got two more segments.
There is no doubt that the concept of growing a skilled birthing population quite able to self-learn a set of birthing coping and birth coaching (or supporting ... as a husband, partner, friend or relative) has not hit the main radar screen about birth.
Yesterday another blogger found the blog mentioned vbacs (vaginal births after cesareans). She mentioned she was 2 1/2 weeks from her birth. I put a message on her blog offering to give her one of the Pink Kit Package resources (an attachment) so she and her partner could work through New Focus: Breath, Language and Touch. For whatever Life's reasons she hasn't been back in touch to take us up on the offer.
Everything in Life is 'symbolic' and everything in Life is 'not symbolic'.
What you'll discover in the continued discussion with Sonya, as a woman who works as a doula she had to absorb a great deal of our correspondence a bit at a time. She has had 5 babies. This means she is always thinking about our conversation from being a human, a woman, a woman who gave birth, a mother, a woman who works as a doula, a woman who helps other women and men during labour and delivery.
That's a lot of different roles or hats or ways of being. Ultimately the power of The Pink Kit skills is that eventually fit nicely into all these different parts.
On 22/01/2007 Sonya wrote:
Hi Wintergreen,
I get what you are saying most of the time. What I don't get I chew on for a while. You have a very strong conviction and you know exactly what you don't want a presenter to be. You will find that most people get defensive when you seem to challenge their beliefs. So if being a Doula/midwife is what they do and you ask them to drop that identity to present the PK, you have asked them to stop being who they define themselves as. Our identities are the beliefs, thoughts, looks and desires and feelings all wrapped up in that definition. We get certain responsibilities that go with those identies and we also get our sense of self. Our strokes so to speak from being this identity and all that goes with it..
The challenge for any "birth professional" is to be able to be void of any personal beliefs, school of thought ect and adhere to the belief that the birthing body can do it's thing when you allow yourself to explore it, self manage it and trust it.
Some "birth professionals " may become offended by the guidelines of becoming a PK presenter, as they may have already made it their own and are busily teaching it. Some get really shirty when questioned and even refuse to even mention PK to their clients because they feel exposed. Others may take the skills and pretend they already had them before and announce that they were around long before the PK ever existed. Some may even feel threatened by the PK and try to devalue it and pretend that it doesn't exist.
The PK exists because we (the parents) asked for it. The PK is a one size fits anybody resource. Did you say that to me once?
I hope you get where I am coming from. I don't want to be an expert on doing the PK on others. I know how limiting that is, for me and for parents. You say you are not sure that you think you should be training PK presenters? What happens if you don't? We both know that the PK is already being misrepresented and misused out there in the professional world (although can't be proven.) How can you get any feedback about how to bring it back into alignment if you don't go to that edge.
So what do you think?
Sonya'
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Tacoma Washington Pink Kit and Pakistan
17 June 2007
Once again I have been hosted by a wonderful Baha'i family this time in Tacoma, Washington. When I returned from Pakistan, I started this blog. Because of the Baha'i families in Sindh Province, I was able to speak to more than 10 different groups of married women from the diverse cultural and religions groups there.
I was then contacted by George who is a Baha'i from Tacoma and read my start-up blog. We corresponded and when I knew I would travel up through Washington, he welcomed me to his home for a weekend visit on my way to BC, Canada to visit an elderly friend.
Fortunately during the weekend I was able to give a Fireside chat to interested people about my trip to Pakistan and The Pink Kit. Because one of the principles of the Baha'i Faith is service work, I did ask people who attended to let others know that I would love to come to their country, give more of the presentations I gave in Pakistan and evaluate how the Pink Kit skills are accepted in many other cultures.
For anyone who is reading this, if you know communities, individuals or groups who would invite me to come for 2-3 weeks and give Pink Kit presentations in developing countries please do contact me.
When enough people can experience how well received these universal skills are, then Common Knowledge Trust can move forward in creating a Pink Kit resource that can be easily translated into many languages and distributed to expectant women. I certainly can't do this on my own and CKT certainly needs your help to grow a skilled birthing population for all births.
So, I just want to extend a loving thanks to the wonderful friends I met in Tacoma and for Bonita and George's welcome.
On another topic, we receive emails all the time from people who have used The Pink Kit. We received this from a woman originally from India:
'I had purchased the pink kit 2 yrs ago when I was 36 or 37 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child wanting a VBAC. My 1st child was born by emergency cesarean and I had a successful VBAC with my 2nd only 1yr and 7 months after my cesarean. The little info I could read and absorb from the pink kit in the 2 weeks I had before the birth really helped me to have a VBAC'.
What's great about this email is the reality that even with a short time before birth ... The Pink Kit can make a great difference. Preferably start with The Pink Kit Package from 24 weeks pregnancy. This woman only had The Pink Kit and still achieved her 'want'. Notice she had to do the work even though she was taking care of her older child and dealing with all the issues around having a vaginal birth after a cesarean.
Once again I have been hosted by a wonderful Baha'i family this time in Tacoma, Washington. When I returned from Pakistan, I started this blog. Because of the Baha'i families in Sindh Province, I was able to speak to more than 10 different groups of married women from the diverse cultural and religions groups there.
I was then contacted by George who is a Baha'i from Tacoma and read my start-up blog. We corresponded and when I knew I would travel up through Washington, he welcomed me to his home for a weekend visit on my way to BC, Canada to visit an elderly friend.
Fortunately during the weekend I was able to give a Fireside chat to interested people about my trip to Pakistan and The Pink Kit. Because one of the principles of the Baha'i Faith is service work, I did ask people who attended to let others know that I would love to come to their country, give more of the presentations I gave in Pakistan and evaluate how the Pink Kit skills are accepted in many other cultures.
For anyone who is reading this, if you know communities, individuals or groups who would invite me to come for 2-3 weeks and give Pink Kit presentations in developing countries please do contact me.
When enough people can experience how well received these universal skills are, then Common Knowledge Trust can move forward in creating a Pink Kit resource that can be easily translated into many languages and distributed to expectant women. I certainly can't do this on my own and CKT certainly needs your help to grow a skilled birthing population for all births.
So, I just want to extend a loving thanks to the wonderful friends I met in Tacoma and for Bonita and George's welcome.
On another topic, we receive emails all the time from people who have used The Pink Kit. We received this from a woman originally from India:
'I had purchased the pink kit 2 yrs ago when I was 36 or 37 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child wanting a VBAC. My 1st child was born by emergency cesarean and I had a successful VBAC with my 2nd only 1yr and 7 months after my cesarean. The little info I could read and absorb from the pink kit in the 2 weeks I had before the birth really helped me to have a VBAC'.
What's great about this email is the reality that even with a short time before birth ... The Pink Kit can make a great difference. Preferably start with The Pink Kit Package from 24 weeks pregnancy. This woman only had The Pink Kit and still achieved her 'want'. Notice she had to do the work even though she was taking care of her older child and dealing with all the issues around having a vaginal birth after a cesarean.
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